So the Dude will be four months old on Friday. How time flies! He is extremely cute, getting a lot bigger. I was reading the latest from The Feminist Breeder yesterday, and was reminded yet again how different babies really are. Among other things in her first post back since the August hiatus, she mentions that her little girl (who is about 3 weeks older than the Dude) began rolling over at 3 months. Really?! Wow! I was kind of shocked actually because the Dude is nearly four months and still hasn’t rolled over. I haven’t paid much attention to what it says about when babies are meant to do certain things, but it really made me think about how different babies can be and how all that stuff about milestones really means nothing. Actually, to be honest, I initially began to worry – why isn’t he rolling over, why isn’t he reaching this crucial developmental stage, is there something wrong with him? Yeah, apparently that’s what mums do, worry. In terms of muscle strength, he’s got it all, and then some. He can easily roll from his back to his side and back again, and I’m sure he’s got the muscles to roll right over, but he just doesn’t do it, doesn’t have the motor skills yet I guess. Typical boy, bit behind the girls. On the other hand, TFB also said her little one has grown 4 inches since birth. Really? At first that sounded like a lot, but then I converted it to centimetres and realised the Dude has grown more than double that since birth! 17cm and counting in fact. Which, if my calculations are correct (2.5 centimetres equals one inch?) is roughly equivalent to 10 inches. Freaking massive! So I’ve decided all his energy is going into growing lengthways and he’s not had a chance to learn about rolling yet. It’ll come, in time.
On the other hand, despite not rolling, he is definitely roly poly, a real little chunk. Actually really bloody heavy! I haven’t had him weighed since his 6 week check up with the midwife, where he was 5.5 kilos I think, but I’m banking on him being at least 7kg now, probably more. He is very solid! And boy does he like to sit up! Of course he’s nowhere near doing it for real in terms of his balance and motor skills, but he gets so angry if he’s put in a semi-reclining position, and he strains to pull himself up to sitting, and actually manages it a lot. I can no longer leave him for a second propped up in the corner of the couch, because he pulls himself up and then goes forward onto his face and tries to go head first off the edge of the couch! He also loves to ‘stand’ – ie. be held under the arms and bear weight on his legs. The look on his face is one of real triumph, so smug, like, ‘oh yeah, look at me!’
He’s also begun to have some really full on conversations with us. He does this thing with his eyes as he chats where he scrunches them up, it’s so cute. And his grabbing is getting really good. I can now leave a toy within reach and he’ll grab it for himself. He still gets frustrated very easily, and often tends to protest about something before it’s even happened yet. It reminds me of the type of kid who, when mum says, ‘okay, how about we go and do….’ and before she even finishes explaining the plan, starts saying, ‘no, I don’t want to do that!’ He shouts and protests just because. It’s cute, but I’m sure it’ll get to a point where he’s big enough to understand that shouting isn’t always the way, especially when you don’t really know what you want!
Did I update on the osteo? Well if not, the outcome wasn’t great. He couldn’t finish the adjustment because the Dude had a meltdown! The guy was like, ‘does he always do this?’ and I had to say, yeah, he does! He reckoned he was in pain with his digestion and gave me instructions on going wheat and dairy free. I had resisted up until that point, but thought, hey, maybe he is sensitive. So I tried it. And actually managed to avoid wheat and dairy, it was amazing, as I’ve never stuck to any kind of diet for more than about 48 hours before. I’m convinced it hasn’t made that much of an impact and I realised later when the Dude fell asleep within about five minutes of being in the ergo after the osteo appointment that he was really just tired and I’d timed the visit totally wrong. Since going dairy and wheat free we really haven’t had any proper meltdowns where he just gets distraught and I sit and let him cry in my arms, but at the same time I’ve begun a routine around sleeping. I’ve started putting him to bed earlier, like by 7pm, sometimes earlier, and he’s having a bath every night, fresh outfit, then bed. He hates being changed, but I’m sure he’ll get used to it. The bath is going really well, he really relaxes and kicks around and makes little noises.
Anyway I’m still sticking more or less to the diet, and it’s definitely reduced the amount of mucus in my system and possibly in the Dude’s as well. He’s definitely not intolerant, but I think he’s just like any normal person – too much dairy or bread and he doesn’t digest as well. I also stopped taking all my supplements at night and I think that’s made a difference to him. I take the odd bit of olive leaf extract in the morning, but I’m not taking anything else and he seems much less vomity than before. Of course he still vomits but he’s full on, it’s what he does, and he drinks too much milk, but what are you gonna do? As with everything else, the old adage still applies: this too shall pass.